11 Years Old Daughter – No Purpose In Life


I thought I should touch on this subject , since I’ve first hand experience with it , as Missy Moo is going through a phase right now.  Last year about this time , she exclaimed that she had NO PURPOSE IN LIFE !   Holy Moly of course I went ballistic about it .  Mannnn!  how can an 11 years old have no purpose in life right?    Yes ! that actually happened in real life for me last year. I went crazy and started raising my voice because I didn’t understand it at all.

 I started to compare my life at 11 with my daughters.  How can a kid that has everything have no purpose in life?  I had a hard life while growing up and I never said anything like that.  But of course, when Missy Moo said that , the first thought that came to my mind was , she was going to hurt herself .  But slow down mom !  because I don’t really think that was what she meant.  Mr Moo took over because I was raising my voice and frightening Missy Moo and I was going really crazy then.  First reaction of a mom for a unstable kid , so if you were like me, don’t be too , too hard on yourself.

But red alert !! dang ! dang ! dang ! dang !  that red alert was sounding in my head so loudly .  The first thing that came to my mind was , Missy Moo needs help and not just your ordinary GP’s help or your family doctor but a real therapist.  So in Canada , it’s not as easy as in Singapore to get to see a doctor , you will have to call mental health and you don’t get to see a psychologist immediately , you have to see a counselor or a therapist first.  Now you have to wait to see the therapist or counselor too.  We luck in and got to see a therapist within the month but of course , there were calls to re-schedule for varies reasons.

So finally, Missy Moo got to see the therapist but no follow up after.  So we thread very carefully for a few months , making sure that we don’t touch on the subjects that she is not favorable about and try to spend as much time as possible with her and listen to her.  In the meantime, we got a total of 2 rabbits , just so she don’t feel as lonely and has some responsibilities.  But don’t do that parents out there , but that is a story for another day.  I don’t want to side – track. so another outburst after a few months and of course , we make another appointment to see the family doctor this time.

Family doctor wanted her to go for a blood test and of course , all hell broke lose as she didn’t like needles nor blood.  Finally managed to convince her that she didn’t have to if she didn’t want to as it caused her anxiety thinking of having to get needles and draw blood out.  So till today, we haven’t done the blood test.  *sigh*.  Anyhow, fast forward, family doctor was of no help, we called the therapist again and try to get in for another appointment.  So waiting for another month, we got in to see her again , but by this time, Missy Moo already felt better, so she went to the therapist and she sent her home and asked her to start a diary. Well, she did start it but it only lasted for like a week.

Missy Moo is feeling much , much better but we don`t know when the next episode is going to occur, and i would hate to be at home alone with her when it does for I`m not as good as Mr Moo when it comes to handling this kind of situation, even though I have panic attacks myself.

So after the 2nd visit to the therapist, she said we didn’t have to make another appointment, till she sees the psychologist in April 2016.  Mr Moo doesn’t think she needs to keep the appointment from the sounds of it but I’m going to insist because you never know and I want to be sure.

Shopping Therapy For Christmas


For some people, meditation is all they need to get them going for the day, as for me shopping therapy is what motivates me to work harder.  And with Christmas round the corner, the more reason to do some shopping therapy .  One can buy a  warwick star bass  online for the spouse and that makes me really happy because I don’t have to worry about his Christmas present anymore.   I like how the star bass has the vintage look and it’s a 4 string instrument the the spouse is interested in, I also get to check out real reviews online before purchasing it of course.    More shopping can be done and I get all my Christmas list crossed off with online shopping.  That makes a very smart shopper, and no stress at all.  Just click, pay and wait for items to be delivered.

Plenty Of Music

There has been plenty of music at home of late and to say that it is not noisy would be a lie because the Missy Moo just bought a new  monotron  to play around with.   I’m just glad that my basement is sound proof that way she doesn’t disturb the neighbors when she is playing with her guitars , plus now that she is 12 , she invites her friends over for fun.  So you know if more than 1 kid around the music room, it can get quite wild.  But I’m not stress about it because she gets to be creative with the musical instruments that she loves.

Good Music Good Health


Our yearly neighborhood garden concert makes me so happy every year but this year, we have many of our neighborhood boys come back from college for the summer to play.  With their  neon guitar  they played so well and impressed us all with not only how well they sounded but how effortlessly, they put the concert together.

We also had a little picnic/bbq that went out the entire afternoon and the entire neighborhood was involved in putting everything together.  I am hoping that the weather will still be good in the fall to have another one.  I’ve enjoyed it tremendously and so have many of our neighbors.

Detoxing In The Morning


 Friends told me many moons ago that if you drink this every morning, you will be doing your body a favor because you are detoxing yourself with the simplest and cheapest means.  It is said that it can do magical things to your health if you drink a glass or lemon juice or lemon aided juice like the above.

Not everyone is so keen on drinking lemon juice in the morning, and I know where you are coming from but if it is good for the health, why not try it right?  I would !  so from today on , I’m going to drink this every morning religiously and report back to you how I feel in a month.  So come back in a month , and I will tell you the real results , so bluffing or hiding of anything.

  • Purifies the colon making it easier to absorb nutrients and improve digestion.
  • Balances the lymph system which helps with daily functions, balances body fluids and fights infection.
  • Lowers cholesterol and triglyceride levels.
  • Lowers high blood pressure.
  • Restores alkaline acid balance, which relieves problems with diets high in acid-producing foods.
  • Helps break down fats, often resulting in weight loss.
  • Removes toxins.
  • Lemon is a mucus buster.
  • Detoxifies and feeds the liver
  • Strengthens you immune system, therefore you get sick less
  • You will feel lighter
  • You will have regular eliminations
  • Clearer skin
  • More energy
  • Boosts you metabolism

Jazz Concerts For The Summer


Before moving to Canada, I used to do a lot more , from going to concerts to listening to Jazz music in Jazz bars and of course,  a lot of plays I would go to.  I love Jazz a lot when I was younger,  they make me feel alive and I especially like slow Jazz in our local pub , I even got to check out some of their electric guitars the bands were using like the  bc rich mockingbird  .  The love the fact that I go to the jazz bar so often that the musicians knows my name and me theirs.  But alas, those were during my younger days.

So this summer , the spouse has some jazz concert lined up for us to go to when we are in the city and Moncton as well as Toronto.  I’m pretty excited and looking forward to our long awaited summer break.

Say No ! to Sugar


I’m diabetic and I try to say No !  to sugar as much as I can.  I know it’s hard but you can do it if you follow all these simple steps.

I find that if I eat regularly and on time, I don’t feel like I need any sugar.  It is when I am overly hungry that I feel I need something really quick, so I don’t make good choices and that in turn can sux big time because I tend to choose just about anything to eat.

Choose food that are not processed as much as possible.  I know sometimes, it is hard but it can be done, like fruits and veggies , eggs are also non – processed food and fish of course. Don’t forget your grains as well as nuts.

I read that doing a detox can rid your craving for sugar.  I haven’t tried it but you can if you like.  How to do a detox?  check with Dr Google.

Get enough sleep and exercise and/or keep active this summer.  Pick up a hobby or take up yoga this summer, that would definitely do you some good.

And most importantly , check and make sure you know what is in the ingredient of the food that you are eating and putting into your body.  For example soda has tons of sugar and must be avoided if possible.  If not, take a few sips only and slowly but surely , you won’t need it no more.  Good luck everyone !

Music With Quiet Time


Ever since the start of the year, I’ve been taking time off for quiet time for myself everyday.  It may not be long, sometimes only 15 mins but it can last as long as an hour.  For my quiet time, I like to relax and listen to music and sometimes, I play with my spouse’s instrument in his man’s cave in the basement.  I find it so therapeutic that I’m able to make time for myself and relax.  The spouse bought some snapjack  to make it easier for me to play around with his many instruments at the basement and I find it really easy to use and I was able to switch instruments without the loud buzzing and shreaking noises.  For those like myself, who is constantly working and doing things for the family and home, try having some quiet time everyday, you will definitely find that it helps with relaxing , definitely good for health.

All About Artificial Sweeteners For Diabetics


I’m sure like me, you want to know what alternatives you have since you can’t take sugar.  I’ve often wonder if artificial sweeteners are good for diabetics like myself.  I’ve Type 2 diabetes and after so many years of being one, I am still searching for the best solution with regards to this deadly health problem.   If you are a diabetic Type 1 or 2 or have a loved one who is diabetic, I’m sure you too are constantly worried that taking too much or too little of anything may send our health down the drain.

So recently , I read an article on sweetener and it was pretty interesting, so I thought I would write it down here to remind myself and share it to anyone who would like to know more about sweeteners and the alternative we think we are taking that doesn’t cost our blood sugar to go crazy nor reports of rise of cancer due to these sweeteners.

Yes, I hear you , first we have to worry about our diabetes and now we have to worry about cancer too.  I know how you feel exactly because I feel the same way too sometimes.  Damn if you do take this and damn if you don’t .  But I’ve heard that Stevia may be the best way to go because the FDA recognized as being generally safe.   Now there are lots of sweeteners made with stevia and one of them I found out that we have here is called Sweet Leaf.  But if you are on saccharin, the longest selling sweetener, I too don’t think that it really proofs that they caused cancer.  So like the author , I’m going to stick to stevia.

Work Safety In Auto Shop

Work safety has always been our main concern in our small town with so many small business and if you are working in an auto shop, I think work safety is even more important.  I love our auto shop very much, not only are they honest people but they really take care of their workers and since they are expanding, they showed us some  auto lift comparison  to be brought in for their garage expansion as well.

I didn’t know there were so many kind of car lifts till I was sitting in the waiting room waiting for my car to be fixed.  I guess if you are spending so much money, you want to make sure you get the best and have choices.   I  read about the alignment car lifts that the auto shop is planning to get as well as the portable car lifts in case they have too many cars in the repair shop for work to be done.


And for work safety reasons, they are choosing the best car lifts that they can find as per the owner of the auto shop.  I’m really happy that they are expanding and more happy that they are taking care of the work safety for their employees.

Toe Nail Fungus


I had gone for a medi-pedi recently at a local spa and the esthetician gently asked me if I knew that I had nail fungus.  First of all , I have to explain what a medi-pedi is.  It is for people like myself who has diabetes and you and I know that we have to take care of our legs and toes if we have diabetes.  So imagine, how shocked I was to hear that, now that would definitely explain why my toe nails were growing sideways and also darken in color.  I’m really happy that someone told me about it.

Now if you are like myself, do not panic because there are simple cures for nail fungus.  The spa recommended something from footlogix – anti-fungal – called Natural Nail Tincture.  I’m sure one can also get a prescription from your family doctor and some home remedy.  But for now, I will try this footlogix thing and see if it works.  Will let you all know the results soon.

Magic Cream For Arthritis


Missy Moo calls it the Magic Cream but truth be told, it’s actually called the World’s best cream.  The little label you see here was done by her – she is the creative person in our family.  And too cute sometimes !  But yes, I came across this cream while out for dinner and getting a yogurt at a local store here in town.  And as you know I’ve been having leg pains for the longest time, and recently haven’t been able to sleep well , so even though it was a little expensive for my liking – $34.50 + tax , I bought it to try.


I figured if it really worked what the hell right?  I would pay just about anything to get a better night’s rest.  The cream claims to have all natural ingredients and properties of copper in them that does healing of the joints or bones.  The night after buying it on a Sunday, I came home and used it on my very painful leg.  It worked immediately, I could feel that it really relaxed my tired feet.  I was so happy because darn !  i haven’t felt my leg so light before.  So I was hopeful.


That night I used it and it did make it easier for me to sleep.  I continued using it the second night but woke up in the middle of the night with some acute pain on my knees, I didn’t get up to take advil as I was lazy and didn’t wanna wake Mr Moo.  I endured it for the entire night and got up at 9am and took Advil immediately.  I continued putting on the cream as instructed and this time I put more cream on as instructed and stopped being cheap.  Thus far, I still have mixed feelings about the cream but it had only been a few days, I will give another review once I’m done using the bottle.

How To Incorporate Sex Into Your Busy Life ?


Anyone out there finds it hard to find time for sex with the spouse ?  we are all so busy and with kids and school and homework, it’s not easy and our day usually ends up late and tiring.  Raise your hands if you are in the same boat as I.  I know you know what I’m talking about .  How many of you get so tired , that y ou just want to sleep and not even want to cuddle when you are in bed.  As for me, I get to bed so late, I just wanna read my e-book and go to bed.  No time for anything else.  So how do one make time in our busy lifestyle for sex?  You and I know that sex is very important in a marriage and no sex may mean that your spouse may stray and so will you.

 I for one do not like the wham bang and thank you mamn’ kinda sex and I hate it when the spouse is also so tired and wants a quickie – you know what that means ?  so no way !!!  so how do one incorporate sex into our busy life you asked?  very good question and a must asked for any woman who wants to have a better relationship with their spouses.  But wait a minute, I didn’t say sex was everything ok – !  so don’t get my words twisted now.

Everyone would tell you that you have to make time, of course we know that – like we know that our moms are woman !!!  duh !  but how do one make time?  how do one put each other in the mood?  I say conscientious effort on both party , and hear this properly, BOTH parties, not just one.  I know it’s hard to sit the spouse down and tell him – hey ! you have to make time for sex with me – hahah! quite embarrassing right?  especially if you come from a culture that don’t talk about sex.  But you will have to , especially if you want your relationship to be awesome.

So here is what you do ,  pick a time where you are both most relax, and have a chat , now don’t be confrontational but let your spouse know that you have needs too and that both of you is going to need to make some special effort.  Like a date night follow by some good love making.  But wait a min?  how often can one do that right?  I know I know !  time is very precious and we don’t have a lot of time but hey ! it is afterall, your relationship and life is more than work, making money and watching a movie.

 And initially, it may only be once a month , but when you get the hang of things and when things starts to get rolling, you and the spouse would want to do more of relaxation and sex will follow.  One can always hope right?  but if you don’t start some where you won’t get no where, so try it and let me know.

Do You Want To Eat Healthy When On Vacation?


So everyone is heading down south to get a little sun from this horrible winter.  We’ve been getting tons of snow of late, so I don’t blame them at all.  But for someone like myself, I can’t go anywhere , because it’s so busy for us her at the store.

So there is articles on eating healthy when you are on vacation but my question is – do you really wanna eat healthy , when you are on vacation?  HELL NO!  if it was I  – I wanna eat everything !!!  especially if you are only on vacation once a year or once every few years.   No way am I going on a diet or restrict myself during my few days vacation , I will start getting healthy for the next 360 days but for the next 5 days, I’m gonna eat whatever I want – thank you very much !

So if you are thinking of the same thing about it as I was for your next vacation, don’t fret about it and eat to your hearts content and come back and eat healthy.  Don’t feel bad about doing it either.  Do yourself a favor and enjoy your vacation , you know you deserve it.

Teak Furniture For Bathroom


I’m pretty sure by now, you all know that I have pain in my knees and sometimes standing up too long can be a really tiring and painful experience.  Most times they are alright but when I need to wash my hair and then shower, that can really hurt, as it can sometimes take as long as half and hour.    So Mr Moo decided that I need a bathroom bench when I’m taking these long showers but I didn’t want those plastic ones as they can get quite slippery and unsafe.

We did a little research and decided to check out  Home and Patio Décor Furniture – Teak  to see if they have something similar that we can buy as we’ve had teak patio furniture at our cottage for the longest time.  I grew up  using teak furniture in our garden, and even though they are a wee bit more expensive, I really think that they are worth every penny.  Why?  my grandma used to say, you pay for what you get, not only does teak furniture have the retro look and feel, it last forever.  The secret lies within the weather-resistant properties that are in teak, it’s natural oil and rubber protects any furniture made of teak wood.  Our patio/garden furniture are left outside all year round and we never have to worry about them.

If you look at the infrared sauna machine  in your health club, the benches used are also made of teak wood, they are of  low maintenance and high quality and never mold nor rot.  Therefore, my insistence on teak furniture is for a long term investment as well as good craftsmanship and the spouse cannot argue with that.

Health Signs Not To Be Ignored


My grandma used to make us stick out our tongue and show her our fingernails because she said that they  tell if we are healthy.  We would humor her and thought that she was going senile but now we learned that our eyes, nails and tongue do say something about our health.

So do not ignore the signs, if you have swollen gums or you constantly have blood shot eyes, it may be telling you that it is time to check with your doctors.  They say that blood vessels in the eyes can be a sign of risk of stroke.  So check yours and your spouse’s now.

Now I believed the tongue thing has to do with the chinese or traditional medicine, now they say that if your tongue is red and painful, it means that your body is lack of iron or Vitamin B12. Now if you have sore spots on your tonuge, you need zinc and iron because you have a deficiency.

And if your hair turns white or grey even when you are still too young to have greys and whites, that means that you may have a serious gut problems.  Of course, all the above are just assumptions, you will still need to go see a doctor and get diagnosed but what I’m trying to say here is , try not to ignore those signs.

Breakfast Myths


Oh my !  So I’m not always right?  I’ve always been told that breakfast is the most important meal of the day ????  but now I’m reading that it isn’t !  darn!  no wonder I can never lose those horrible weight because i eat my breakfast religiously for the last 50 yrs!  More than 5 decades of eating breakfast and now they are telling me otherwise !  darn !

Well, lets see what they are saying now about breakfast?  should I stop eating them then?

 So if you are eating pancakes and waffles and all kinds of junk food in the morning, it isn’t good for you at all.  Muffins and all the greasy stuff first thing in the morning, can actually make you a really unhealthy person.  Therefore, if you are eating that kind of breakfast everyday, you have to stop immediately, else you might get a heart attack really soon.  That’s what the magazine i am reading said.

Once upon a time, we were told that breakfast makes a smarter kid ?  so now they have another theory for it – apparently breakfast programs are put in place, so that the less fortunate kids whose parents cannot be bothered to feed them, can concentrate more in class instead of thinking of their empty stomach.  That is quite true too, how can one excel when your tummy is growling at you all the time?

 We were also told that if you eat your breakfast, you can lose weight but truth be told, I myself never did experience any weight lost, in fact, I still feel a need to eat after a few hours.  So weight lost has nothing to do with one eating breakfast or not.

I was also told that breakfast can help you jump start your metabolism but everyone’s metabolism is different, therefore, I too can attest to the fact that having breakfast in the morning does not necessary do that for you, so from now on, I will skip breakfast if I want to.

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