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Kids Dealing With Death
It has been a month now – since the death of my mother-in-law and Missy Moo is still grieving in her own way. Every day she asked why did grammie have to die or go. It’s really sad and hard to see her sad too and all the questions that even I cannot answer. But it is normal for Missy Moo who is 8 years old to ask question and still feel sad because is it very raw for her still plus she was quite closed to her grandmother.
So we try and comfort her as best as we can but not lie to her – like telling her that she would be back or that God needed an angel up there. We tell her that we really don’t know why she was called back home – but we want to think that she is in a better place. Missy Moo had argued with me – how could she be in a better place especially when she didn’t even say goodbye or that she misses her so much and that she wouldn’t be able to do this and that with her. You see kids are really smart and we have to really be careful of what we tell them because if it is not logical – she would definitely question it and it would make her upset because it’s puzzling enough for her now.
We know it is going to take a lot of time to heal and we all have to be patient.
Dealing With Death The Kid’s Way
This is how Missy Moo is dealing with the death of her Grammie – being 8 yrs old is hard. I don’t even remember my grandmother when she died nor was I that closed to mine when she passed away when I was 9 yrs old and I was older than Missy Moo. So Missy Moo writes to her grandmother although she never asked us to send it out for her – she feels or thinks that her grammie can read it from heaven. But it’s touching and Missy Moo drew first for her grandmother and now gradually started to write letters for her grandmother. We certainly encouraged it and we think it’s a healthy way to express herself rather than to keep it inside herself.
Dying Of Cancer
My mother-in-law passed away this morning of liver cancer – and it happened so quickly – we weren’t even prepared for it. She went into the doctor’s thinking that it was an ulcer in her stomach and then they told her – that her liver was enlarged. Less than 2.5 weeks – she died. The cancer in her liver took over so quick – it was too terrible. The last 2 days of her life – she couldn’t even talk to us – nor concentrate to make anything clear. So if you have a discomfort in your stomach – do not wait till you can’t walk or that the pain is so bad – then go see a doctor. Because if my mother-in-law would have gone in sooner – maybe she might have had a chance for a fight but because 90% of her liver was destroyed by cancer – the hospital won’t even do nothing for her. In other words – they just watched her die.
Cancer In Liver
Yes, apparently the enlarged liver is because the cancer had taken over the liver of my mother-in-law. 90% of her liver is covered with cancer according to both her family doctor and Dr Leahey. According to the doctors, the detection was so late wasn’t anyone’s fault – because usually you don’t feel a lot of pain where the liver is.
My mother-in-law’s condition had taken a worst turn in just a matter of days. But because they don’t think that the cancer came from the liver itself but somewhere else and spread to the liver so quickly – there is actually no way to cure her. I had asked them in a very ridiculous manner – if we were just gonna wait for my mother-in-law to die and not do anything – and they had replied a matter-of -factly that they were doing the after-care and preparing her for the end. JOY!
I learned that once you get liver cancer – the cure chances is very slim and that unless it is detected really early – not much can be done about it. There are tests to determine whether your liver is in trouble – so I’m on the ball with Mr Moo and Missy Moo from now on.
